23 March 2017

To all the mamas



To the new mamas,
The oh so tired, been up all night mamas, 
And the 'i'm doing my best' not to screw this up mamas.


To the mamas wiping faces,
The mamas drying tears,
And the ones giving hugs.

To the expecting mamas,
The 'I so wish to be a' mamas,
And the mamas of babes who grew their wings too soon.

To the going it alone mamas,
The foster mamas, step mamas, adoptive mamas,
And the dads being mama too.

To the stay at home mamas
The working mamas 
And the somewhere in between mamas

To the mamas who grew us, shaped us and taught us,
The angel mamas looking down with pride from above 
And the fairy god mamas elected to support us 

This day is for you 
You're amazing, irreplaceable, incredible mamas 
And someone, somewhere appreciates all that you do,
And all that is you. 


Happy Mothers Day ❤️





20 March 2017

Siblings Project - March 2017

I don't quite know where to start with this month's Siblings Project post... the girls relationships have been rather 'interesting' lately. My siblings shots this month kind of capture the fact that they are a little bit out of sync, being a little bit cheeky and if I'm being entirely honest (which I always endeavour to be here) testing my parenting skills! This month instead of seeing 3 sisters in the frame, I see 3 individuals, which of course they are but there is normally more unity between them than there has been over the last few weeks.


I feel like I am a constant referee at the moment as there's an awful lot of bickering and squabbling going on. They really seem to be testing the boundaries with each other, whether its taking a toy someone else is playing with, eating something off each others plate, running away with something treasured by another sibling and the odd yank of the hair, tongues being stuck out and voices raised.


It's been incredibly draining and quite frankly exhausting sorting out all these tiny disagreements which of course to them feel huge. I'm trying to pull some positives from this stage and have consoled myself in the fact that while they might be finding each other an annoyance at times, they are actually helping each other learn so many life lessons and skills which will be super valuable. They are learning about emotions, learning to consider others, how to share and how difficult that can be, they are learning to respect choice and difference, they are learning that we might not always like what others do or say and so much more.


Whilst every little intervention is frustrating and exhausting for us as parents it gives us opportunities to give the girls tools to solve these problems between themselves, to negotiate with one another and to remind them to be kind and gentle to one another. It's easy for us to forget that they are actually only 5, 3 and 1 and that they are very much still learning these skills and that our role as parents is to teach them and guide them through through each altercation.


Being all girls and very close in age it's also really easy to group them together as 'the girls' and I think it's really important for me to remember that they are all individuals developing and finding out who they are with very different personalities and strengths and weaknesses - there are bound to be clashes. There's probably also a little bit of sibling rivalry going on too and they seem to be vying for my attention and going about it any which way they can. I love being a mum of 3 but it is incredibly hard to give each of them my time and I often feel guilty that they have to 'wait a minute' more often than I'd like while I sort a sibling out.


With 3 children there are also several combinations of 'fallings out' which is probably why it feels like it's pretty constant. There are plenty of lovely moments between them too which are easy to miss when you feel like you have spent most of the day solving problems. This morning for example Miss Tib's let Miss Boo have the last packet of the variety pack cereal, Miss Dot climbed up on the sofa and cuddled up to her sisters and gave them both a kiss and Miss Boo let Miss Tibs choose the after school TV programme. So as much as they are battling they are also making peace and although I'm pulling my hair out a bit they really do love each other very much, as long as someone hasn't got a better kinder egg toy than them that is!

Me x


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15 March 2017

The Best Chocolate Flapjacks Ever

These are my go to quick bake for when we are having friends over for a cup of tea, when we fancy a sweet treat or for sending in the post to a friend who needs a little pick me up as they travel well! They are so yummy, so easy and pretty fool proof which I think makes this best chocolate flapjack recipe ever. Give it a go and see for yourself, everything you need and instructions are below, I will apologise in advance as you'll never be able to eat just one!



The Recipe

Ingredients

- 175g butter
- 175g soft brown sugar
- 1 tablespoon golden syrup
- 250g oats
- A handful of raisins
- 400g milk chocolate for the top.

Method

- Melt the butter, sugar and syrup together in a pan

- Once melted add in the oats and raisins and mix together

- line a deep square or rectangular baking tray or dish with parchment paper

- transfer the flapjack mixture to the tray spreading and pressing it down with the fork or the back of a spoon until it is about an inch thick

- bake at 150 degrees C for 25 mins or so until golden brown and then leave to cool

- melt the chocolate in a bowl and then spread on top of your flapjack and leave to cool and reset.

- Once set simply chop into chunks and serve.

Enjoy!

Me x



9 March 2017

Why It's Ok To Let Things Slide Sometimes



Lately, despite my very best efforts, i've felt like I haven't been doing anything particularly well. Being a mum, wife, friend, daughter, sister and an employee has left me feeling pulled in rather a lot of directions. Trying to give each of these things my all has left me feeling deflated, frustrated and most of all exhausted. It's just not attainable to have and do it all, all of the time, which is why i've decided that i'm letting some things slide and i'm ok with that.

My mistake has been trying to do everything well so i'm trying to live by the 80/20 theory which basically endorses letting things slide and accepting there will be some things each week that just won't have 100% of my focus, effort or attention. By focusing on doing 80% of things well I'm allowing myself to let 20% of things slide each week, whether that be the housework, not worrying that I haven't replied to all messages on my phone from friends and family, or spent any time with my husband.

One week I may barely speak to my husband as we sit on the sofa at either end, scrolling through our phones too exhausted to actually talk to each other, or barely see each other because of work or other commitments. The next week it's date night and a lie in while the children stay overnight with grandparents, or a takeaway snuggled up watching a film or a family weekend where we can step back and feel super proud together of our lovely children.

I might go for weeks without seeing or speaking to my friends, meaning to get in touch and see how they are, then the next week we'll have coffee or dinner or a marathon video call and all is well in the world again.

I might have a week where I forget to put water bottle in my daughters book bag, or we're too tired to do her reading and they watch far too much tv, but the next week we're on it, nothing is forgotten and we go off out adventuring together.

I might have a week when I do nothing for myself and am rushed off my feet and others where I take the time to run myself a bath, go to yoga or treat myself to a bit of pampering even if it's just painting my own nails.

There are where my house looks like it has been burgled, with washing piled up and an empty fridge because I haven't had chance to do the online shop and the thought of going to the actual shop with 3 children fills me with fear. Then other weeks we kind of catch up and it's tidy and calmer, and the washing baskets are almost empty!

There are weeks we have beans on toast for tea and then weeks i'm cooking things Nigella would be proud of and baking up a storm.

There are weeks where my work doesn't always get the best of me because i'm tired from being up all night with the children but others where i'm on fire with efficiency and I leave at the end of the day with a huge sense of achievement.

Anyway you get the picture - basically the theory in summary is 'cut yourself some slack'. There will be weeks when its 80/20, 70/30, 60/40 and even 50/50 and that's ok with me because it all evens out in the end and you never know there might even be the odd week where the stars align and everything feels 100% in order. I've been surprised at how ok i've been with this given the perfectionist in me but it's been so refreshing and has really taken the pressure off. So here's to letting things slide... right now its the pile of dishes in the sink because i'd rather be sitting here writing!

Me x

5 March 2017

Me & Mine Project - February 2017

We are fashionably late with this post but then that kind of sums up February! Life has felt extremely busy and time has absolutely whizzed by... am I the only one wondering how on earth it's March already? 

Our favourite thing about February was without a doubt that it was half term which meant for one week at least we could slow down and spend some real quality time together as a family. Oli and I both booked some time off work which meant we each got time with all 3 girls and also time together as a family of 5. It was wonderful not having to rush out the door to school and be able to sit and drink tea, snuggle up, watch movies and eat crumpets together. The girls just loved being together as a 3 and kept each other entertained. 

The time at home also meant we could catch up on life and jobs and relax which was just so lovely. We spent time baking and colouring and walking down to the local park and also squeezed in a couple of trips out to the cinema and to the farm. Our visit to the farm was probably the highlight of the month as the girls were so excited to go as we hadn't been since last summer. Miss Dot loves her farm animal books and was squealing with delight as she spotted the ducks and pigs. They also got to bottle feed some baby lambs and ride a pony, the joy on their faces was just beautiful and standing back and watching Oli and I felt so proud of our little family.

February has also bought with it a sense of rhythm and it kind of feels like we are finally settling into our weekly routine. I've been back at work for 3 and a bit months now and it's beginning to feel a bit more normal for everyone. Oli takes care of the girls on Wednesday and Thursdays and they have really found their own way. It feels like there is more of a balance, that we're adjusting and the new dynamic feels good. I'm supporting more financially, Oli's supporting more at home and the girls have embraced the change and love both their 'mummy days', 'daddy days' and 'family days' as they have now known. 

The pressure has been lifted from both Oli and I in different ways and we're really working together as as a team, and despite the odd niggle that is only normal when you're married, parenting a young family and working hard- we're a good team. It's definitely not easy but we're doing it as a family together and that's all that matters. With balance very much on my mind this month it seemed only fitting for this months Me and Mine capture to be of us balancing on a log together! So here we all are, with a couple of outtakes to as i know you enjoyed those last month and I like to keep it real...




Me x

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